HOW TO END A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP | @dorcasbaseyblog

HOW TO END A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP | @dorcasbaseyblog

Life is full of elements that can poison our body, from drinks to food, pollution, chemicals, plants or animals, but some relationships can poison our mind and soul.  

It's important to note that there are highly toxic people, so much that the simple fact that they are part of your life can cause you to develop anxiety and depression as a result of constantly controlling, criticizing or using guilt as a weapon on you.

Notably, for someone to hurt you so much, they must be very close, such as a friend, family member or lover. The worst thing is that love blinds you and it is practically impossible for you to realize the degree of toxicity of your relationship.

Fortunately, specialists have found ways to end toxic relationships. Of course, it is not an easy task, as much as you fight to remove it from your life, you must also stand firm, as well as set limits.

Here are ways you can deal with toxic relationships:

Ask Yourself What He Wants From You

If you've concluded that your partner is emotionally toxic, you need to find out what they want from you.Whether consciously or unconsciously, these types of people act with a goal, such as trying to monopolize your affection or control you because they are too insecure.

Evaluate The Damage It Is Causing In Your Life

Once you know what their goals are, you need to focus on yourself and the damage you are taking. Perhaps it is interfering in your relationships with other people, affecting your social life or damaging your self-esteem. Identifying the type of damage it is doing to you is essential to neutralize it.

Identify The Strategy That You Are Using

What is his modus operandi, does he play the victim, threaten or criticize you all the time? You have to pay attention to what he does and how he does it. Has everything you've tried worked for you?

That Person Knows Your Weakness

This is the part you should pay the most attention to, as it requires an exercise in introspection. Your partner has been able to hurt you because he knows your weakness. If you doubt the quality of your work, he will question what you do or criticize the results, or if you worry about your social life, it can ruin your relationship with your friends. Let's say all you do is add fuel to the fire. You already have the problem, he or she only feeds it at their convenience.

learn To Set Limits

Once you have worked on the previous points, you only have to block the toxicity of your partner, and for this you will need to learn to set limits. Facing him and questioning what he is doing might not necessarily work, as it could lead to a whole new series of attacks on your emotional health. If you want to maintain that relationship, you must close the door to any comment, criticism or blackmail that he makes. The goal is to prevent him from hurting you.

Although this is limited to lovers, you should know that your mothers, brothers, friends, bosses or co-workers can be toxic too so you can use this procedure, in any case.