STEPS TO GET OVER SOMEONE WHO HAS STOPPED LOVING YOU|@Dorcasbasseyblog

 STEPS TO GET OVER SOMEONE WHO HAS STOPPED LOVING YOU|@Dorcasbasseyblog

When love is reciprocated, it takes you to the clouds, you smile at all times, you feel privileged to live that special feeling, but as time goes by many of us begin to need this love like oxygen itself. , and at this point, the most winding road for our life begins.

And at some point in life, this person who was your oxygen is no longer the same. You are indifferent to him, he doesn't look at you like before, he doesn't listen to you, you are almost invisible. You are terrified to ask, because you are almost sure of the answer, that little by little your soul begins to slowly turn off, little by little.

Where has the love gone? What happened to his feelings for you? 

Being dependent on someone who does not love you will only bring you suffering, to the point of impeding your true and fresh essence, this makes you very sad and consumes your desire to even live.

Being rejected or not being loved is painful and makes you afraid of being alone because you limit yourself to the love of that person and think that your life has reached the end.

If you have come this far and feel that if this person walks away you will not be able to continue living, here are steps to follow to find yourself again, to love the only person who will always be with you, to fall in love with yourself again.

1. Recognize that the other person, just like every other human can stop feeling love for you

Perhaps the most difficult step is recognizing that someone can say NO to loving us, that someone can decide to stop being in your life, especially when that someone is the person who once took you to the clouds.

To stop feeling, to love, to like something or someone, is natural as humans. Taking a second thought, I'm sure you can make a list of things that you no longer like, of people you love or frequent, of places that used to be a paradise for you, and today are a bad memory. . Things are constantly changing, and accepting that this person's feelings for you have changed and that it's not your fault is the first step to healing.

2. Reflect On Your Reason To Want To Be Next To Someone Who No Longer Loves You.

Why do you want to be with this person? How did it make you feel when you both loved each other and how do you feel now? Do you feel the same way about him? What do you expect from him? Why do you want him to continue in your life?

These are just some of the questions that will help you reflect and realize what you are looking for from this person, it will help you to know if you are looking for him, or if you are looking for yourself, your original version, for that person who lived before him, existed and was happy.

3. Rediscover Your Value And You Will Stop Hurting Yourself

When you live as a couple your feeling of individuality is transformed, there is no "I" because now you are "we". Your self begins to disappear, and you even stop remembering what you like, or what makes you happy. Your life has been based on this other person and you think you don't know how to live it without him/her.

Well, I have some very good news for you, you lived your whole life without that person and it was you and your individuality who made him fall in love, and it is you and your unique being who will rescue you from so much pain and leave you ready to love and be loved again.

4. Trust That You Can Love Yourself More Than Others

If you don't love yourself, if you don't respect yourself, if you don't value yourself for who you are, no one ever will. You are the most important person on the planet never forget that.

5. Try To Live Comforting And Stimulating Experiences That Strengthen Your Beauty And Inner Peace.

Part of letting go of unrequited love is getting to know yourself again and rebuilding yourself. Get out of the routine, break your fears, try new things, dare and live your life as if each day were the last and each second the most special of your journey.

6. Eliminate Hope.

You have to close the chapter with that person. You cannot leave any door open to the remote possibility that this person will return to you. If you keep hope, you will never be able to forget and you will live in the past imagining a future that will not come. Let go so that life finds you empty-handed and ready to receive what it has to give you.

7. Dare

When it hurts and you think that there is nothing worse that could happen to you, that is exactly when you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Face life, dare everything, challenge destiny and shout to the world that you can.

8. Fall In Love Again

You are an unrepeatable unique, beautiful, pure, beautiful being, then you will be able to embark on the path from that perspective. Fall in love with life, love, yourself, fall in love with your freedom, your independence, your children, what you achieved and what you will achieve. You are unique, unrepeatable and you are worth everything to someone you may not have met.

9. Put distance

Putting distance is one of the best tips that we are going to give you so that you can stop loving someone who does not love you. They say that distance cools feelings and it's true, but not only is this what is going to happen, but you will be able to see what is happening to you with perspective.

10. Don't Underestimate Yourself

You may think that he doesn't like you because you're ugly, for example, among other thoughts that are just trying to boycott you. Get rid of them as soon as possible because they are not true.

11. Take Good Care Of Yourself

You will feel pain, yes, but it is time for you to enjoy those walks alone in nature that you like so much, to try a new activity in the gym, to treat yourself to a spa session. Take care of yourself because you deserve it and because you need it.

12. Focus On Your Goals

Therefore, a key piece of advice to stop loving when you are not reciprocated is to focus on your goals, your job, your hobbies, your future. This will help you get through the rough patch.

13. Seek Professional Help

After this experience, it is normal that your self-esteem is damaged or that you do not know how to continue with your life. Getting out of sadness, starting to do things and seeing beyond that pain you now feel is essential.

You can't always do it alone. So seek professional help and find out how you experience personal growth.